Rape occurs when the act of sexual intercourse is non-consensual (not agreed upon), or a person forces another person to have sex against his or her will. It also can occur when the victim is intoxicated from alcohol or drugs. Rape includes intercourse in the vagina, anus, or mouth. In the legal sense, rape can occur through penetration, however slight, against a victims wishes. It is a violent criminal offense, which means it is among the most serious crimes a person can commit against another person. Men, women, children, and even the elderly can be raped.
Many times, the person who commits rape uses violence to force the person to have sex. An attacker also can use fear alone to commit rape. Rape can cause both physical, emotional, and sexual harm to the victim, and the victim’s family and friends.
Date rape is when one person forces another person to have sex, or sexual intercourse. It, too, is a violent criminal offense. The difference between a rape and a date rape is that the victim knows the attacker socially. Perhaps he or she even went out with his or her attacker more than once.
If you have been raped, follow these steps:
• Don't wash or douche. You do not want to wash away any evidence that could be used against your attacker in court.
• Do not urinate.
• Do not brush your teeth, or use mouthwash, as this may destroy valuable evidence.
• Call the police and tell them what happened. If you are afraid to call the police, call your local rape crisis center.
• Go to an emergency room. While there, you will be examined. A doctor will make a record of your injuries and treat you. Samples of any fluid left in the vagina, anus, or mouth, (especially semen) will be gathered. Hair, pieces of clothing, or other objects left by the attacker also may be taken. These samples may be used to help identify and convict your attacker.
Some victims feel like rape is their fault. Although rape is never the victim's fault, feelings of guilt can prevent the victim from getting help. Remember, rape can really hurt a person's emotions. Even if you get over the crisis of the attack, you may develop painful feelings later. It's important to get help for yourself as soon as possible to avoid serious emotional complications, even if you do not want to press charges against your attacker.
If you aren't sure if what happened to you was rape, a rape crisis counselor or medical doctor can help you sort it out.
Rape harms the victim both physically and emotionally.
Types of physical harm due to rape can include:
• Broken bones, bruises, cuts, and other injuries from the violent act.
• Injuries to the genitals and/or anus.
• Being exposed to diseases that can be passed on during sex, including HIV, the virus that causes AIDS, herpes, gonorrhea, and syphilis.
• And even an unwanted pregnancy.
Types of emotional harm include:
• Shame
• Embarrassment
• Guilt
• Feelings of worthlessness
Rape victims may also have problems with:
• Fear
• Depression
• Anger
• Trust
• Attraction to men (if the attacker was a man)
• Consensual sex later in life (inability to enjoy sex without intrusive recollections of the sexual abuse)
• Flashbacks (reliving the rape in your mind)
• Nightmares
• Falling and staying asleep
Rape can leave physical and emotional scars that last a long time. Some victims find that emotional scars never go away. Long-term counseling can help you to deal with guilt, fear, depression, anxiety, and other emotions. Many victims seek out and get help by joining support groups.
Unfortunately, there's no sure way to protect yourself from rape. Even people who take steps to protect themselves can be victims. But, following common safeguards, like these, is still a good idea:
• Be responsible for your actions. Stay in control. Don't get drunk at a party and ask a stranger to drive you home, for example.
• Don't walk alone at night. It takes just one trip alone to your car to be attacked. Walk with a friend.
• Don't get talked into something you don't want to do. Make your own choices and stick with them.
• Learn ways to defend yourself in the case of an attack.
• Trust your feelings. If a person seems threatening to you, don't continue the friendship.
• Learn about rape and why people rape. This knowledge will make you more alert to possible attackers.
Unfortunately, 62% of women and 43% of men will be raped or sexually assaulted in their lifetime. I advocate removal of the rapists through immediate execution, upon their conviction, for the significant amount of damage that they are responsible for.
As always, stay safe !
Bird
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